Understanding Middle School Boys' Perspectives on Relationships

As a middle school student with a girlfriend, it's natural to wonder how to attract or keep boys interested in you. From my experience, here are some tips based on what middle school boys like in girls and how to get them to like you.

Navigating Relationship Etiquette: A Middle Schooler's Insight

1. Maintain a balance of cleanliness and perceived authenticity. While it's important not to skip showers, don't go overboard with maintenance. Boys often appreciate girls who can handle a bit of dirt and don't strive to be too perfect. High-maintenance behavior can make you seem stiff, and the majority of boys I know would rather be with someone who isn't overly uptight.
2. **Communicate confidently and respectfully without being creepy**. Middle school can be intimidating, and it's normal to feel nervous when approaching boys. However, remember that both genders are just people. Communicate calmly and naturally. If a boy seems uninterested, it's okay to back off a bit. For instance, I had a girl ask for my number, and it was clear she was being creepy. Thus, I decided not to give her the number.

Establishing Friendship Beforeromantic Interests

3. Build a friendship before exploring romantic interests. Many girls rush into relationships without thoroughly getting to know a boy. It's better to slowly build a friendship, get to know each other, and let your feelings naturally develop. For instance, if he calls often, bumps into you between classes, or seeks your attention, there's a chance he may like you. However, remember that everyone is different, so he might show his interest in a different way, but you'll typically sense it.

Maintaining a Balanced Relationship

4. Be strong and have a healthy balance. Often, girls try so hard to please their boyfriends that they forget to live their own lives. Setting boundaries and maintaining a healthy balance is crucial when you're in a relationship. If he is constantly seeking attention, talk to him about setting specific times for dates and activities without completely organizing your life around him.

Embracing Variety in Experiences

5. Stay unpredictable and try new things. It's important not to become too predictable. Boys often appreciate variety. Tweak your style or try new hobbies or activities. This keeps things interesting and shows that you're adaptable. If you're a girl, for example, you could try new clothes or seek out new hobbies that you wouldn't usually do.

The Power of Friendship: Your Corner in Times of Need

6. Maintain strong friendships. Your friends are your corner in times of need. Having a supportive network of friends can make dealing with middle school challenges easier. They can provide valuable opinions and help you navigate tricky situations.

Conclusion and Final Thought

These tips are based on a blend of my personal experience and observations. If you need more help, feel free to reach out.